What gems will you find?

06/07/2025

I am a fan of lists - especially when they involved people sharing personally relevant insights. There's something special about absorbing the wisdom of everyday people, instead of only looking for the gems of the great writers and thinkers.

Mari Andrew's list titled "100 things I know" is one I find myself returning to often. In this list, she shares 100 things she's learnt that have made her life better. Her list covers a whole range of things, but I noticed many have to do with relating skilfully to ourselves and those in our lives.

Here are 5 that I've found especially valuable for myself:

I also know that support during grief tends to end at some point. Mark your calendar for six months after the death of a loved one’s loved one. This is the time they stop receiving cards and offers for help, but they’re mired in the grief. Step in, with a box of ice cream or a call.

I know that public speaking scares me, and that I love it. My tried and true ritual: Before I begin, I take a moment to look around and smile at the audience. I identify someone who looks particularly engaged, and keep going back to them throughout my speech.

I know that often I don’t know what to say. “That sounds really hard” is usually a solid option.

I know that showing up is the ultimate act of love. Go to every wedding and every funeral. But more importantly: Go to every sick person’s bedside.

I know anticipation can soften despair. Always have something on the calendar that you’re looking forward to.